Inidigo Education: How to Cultivate Authentic Confidence | Ep 325

Summary
In this episode, Clayton Cuteri explores the concept of confidence, emphasizing the importance of authentic confidence over the short-term strategy of 'faking it till you make it.' He discusses how taking action, embracing ignorance, and pursuing education can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and cultivate true confidence. The conversation highlights the significance of commitment to personal promises and the role of spiritual journeys in building self-trust and confidence.

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Timecodes
00:00 - Intro
03:03 - Fake It Till You Make It: Short-Term vs Long-Term Confidence
09:09 - Cultivating Authentic Confidence Through Action
14:14 - The Role of Education in Building Confidence
20:36 - The Importance of Commitment and Self-Trust

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Transcript

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exploring spiritual journeys to find answers in uncertainty. This is up conscious monkeys. Welcome back to another episode of traveling to consciousness. As always, I'm your host, Clayton Kuteri. And in today's podcast, we are talking about confidence or doing an Indigo education piece, a little Indigo knowledge here, if you will. And here's the deal. I don't know what I'm going to say yet, but that is, think, a part of what can bring you more confidence is being able to put yourself in situations where you're struggling, not know what you're going to say, but have the confidence that you're going to be able to do it. And in this, it's going to be an IG live because I told you we're doing those now. So if you want to do them live, Well, you're not going be able to do this one because you're listening to it now. But in the future, if you want to interact with the IG lives, it'll be live on my Instagram at Clayton Gutierre and it'll be Wednesday nights at nine p.m. Eastern. So you'll be able to interact with me, ask me questions, make it on the podcast. You want to shout out. We can do all that fun stuff. But in this podcast, in this Instagram live, we're going to be talking about confidence and how you can cultivate confidence. through action. I'm to touch on the idea of faking it till you make it. I'm going to explain and lay out my path how I have cultivated more confidence because I feel like confidence is something you can always get more of but we'll jump into that in the IG live and it embodies a mindset shift. And I think when you bundle all of these things together, that's whenever it starts to cultivate confidence, can call it divine confidence. If you want, it's a fun little way to make it seem spiritual and enlightening. But, but the point is, is that once you start aligning with your soul, you'll start to become more confident. You'll start radiating that out and we need more spiritual leaders. So that's my goal here is to Inspire that confidence to cultivate that confidence within other spiritual leaders that exist out there who don't even know that they are spiritual leaders Because we need more of us. We need more of you We need more of you. So with that being said let's jump into the IG live So what is up Instagram? Hope you guys are doing well. As you know, my name is Clay and Q Terry and I to go through how we can cultivate authentic confidence in our life. And we're to go through quite a bit of things here. We're to talk about the whole notion of fake it till you make it. I'm going to tell you my opinion of that. We're going to talk about action. We're going to talk about the relativity. involved in confidence. All of my science people, you're going to enjoy that. We're going talk about education and we're going to talk about shifting your mindset and how all these things and a few other things will contribute to you becoming authentically confident in whatever it is you do or want to do with your life. So starting off, starting off, let's jump into the notion of faking it till you make it. Cause I know myself for the longest time, this was me. It was with everything in life, whether it was coding, whether it was with work, whether it was with women, I always just had this fake it till you make it mentality. And I find that there's quite a few issues that come up with the fake it till you make it mentality. Now it's great for short term success. Excellent for it. The problem is, that you're not cultivating long-term success with it. And that's where I think that our society has been losing itself is positioning itself with short-term vision as opposed to the long-term vision. So the fake it till you make it. If you're able to use it for short-term goals, go for it. But if you're looking for that authentic confidence, you're going to find it. Well, in the tips I have here, but it's not going to be through the fake it till you make it mentality. So it does help with that initial breaking of the barrier, the fake it till you make it, it gets you out there. But the problem is, is that you have a front row seat to who you are. You're the driver. You're the passenger. You see everything that's going on inside the car. So, you know how you feel internally about the words, the frequency, the vibration, the energy that you're giving off and you know so much more than other people. And so over time, this won't really fully create that confidence by just faking it because you're creating a mental program of faking it. which is going to create more faking it and it'll just be a nasty loop. It'll lead to imposter syndrome, self doubt, all of these things, which can be tough to, to break. Now, a better route, an alternative to faking it, is taking the route of owning your ignorance. Now, just because someone's confident, it does not mean that they know everything. They don't know every single thing about everything. In fact, confident people tend to acknowledge that they know they don't know enough, that they have more to learn, that they want to learn from everybody. And I've noticed that with truly confident people. See, I'm also a huge, huge, I study history, study historical figures a lot. specifically men and women who have left a left their mark on society and one story that comes to me in regards to owning ignorance in a place where he wasn't even ignorant is whenever I think about this story of a Napoleon Napoleon bone apart. So if you haven't heard that name before he rose to become the first consul emperor of France in the late 1700s early 1800s. And there's a story of him whenever he was promoted to general. I think it was general or he was like leading an army. I don't really know the title, but so he was at the age of like 26 or 28 and he's commanded to lead this army and in this army are generals and leaders who are of the age of like 50 and 55. And so here's a 26 year old kid coming into an environment where he's supposed to be giving orders to 50 55 year old men. And he does this very brilliant thing where even though he knows the answers he goes and plays ignorant to the generals day one he sets a meeting and he goes to all of them gets all the generals all the people that are older than him and says hey like and just berates them with basic military questions over and over and over again. and he'll keep asking them. He just kept asking them very mundane, very simple questions. And this highlights that even though he had the knowledge, he still had the confidence to be able to sit there and say and act as if he didn't know the answer. And it had, mean, you can check the history books. It had a tremendous impact on the way that these generals viewed him as someone who wasn't going to come in and just like have this ego and tell them what to do. Because I think that's what fake it till you make it can not always, but can cultivate is that ego. of like, I'm the best. know what I'm doing. But when you're confident, it almost doesn't really matter to you how other people view you because you're confident in who you are. You have the knowledge, you have the understanding, the wisdom. You've done the things to justify being confident within yourself. And it must have shown these generals that he was confident. And so I kind of alluded to it, but let's get down to how we start actually cultivating that true confidence that we're looking for. All right. And there's more than one way, but the number one way that I have seen in my life is by action, by taking action, by doing your duty in India, they call it karma. I know sometimes we talk about karma like good things happen. Then it comes to you bad things happen that it comes to you sort of simple right same but karma directly translates to action. So if you do your karma if you do action confidence will naturally come to you. It's something that you have to almost earn within yourself within the universe and then it will start to just radiate out from you. It creates this way of self-trust, of believing in yourself. And when you believe in yourself, no matter what other people say, whether it's on the internet, whether it's in your DMs, it won't shake you because you're confident. You know what you know, you've done the things and you can get to that next step. And I think where this ties in to the next stage of this would be whenever it comes to a skill set. So, confidence is also contextual. What do I mean by this? So if you give me a violin, I have zero confidence that I will be able to play that file in well. Absolutely none. You stick a microphone in front of my face. I have a lot of confidence that I will be able to speak clearly. enunciate my words, but if you wanted me to speak in regards to playing the violin, I have zero confidence. I'm to be able to tell you anything again. I could fake it, but if there's someone out there who plays the violin, they're going to know that I'm lying and I'll know that I'm lying because I have a front-row seat to how much knowledge that I have. So we have to remember that based on specific skills, we can have confidence and there's a level of cultivating that confidence within a skill by being ignorant. Are you following where I'm going here with this? So as an example, podcasting, I've been doing it for three, three and a half years. Now, whenever I started podcasting, I took the mindset of, don't know. I don't know what I'm doing. You can go listen back to the oldest podcasts I have, and it's a hundred percent ignorance. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what's going on here. I'm just recording my voice. And over time, over the last three and a half years, I've learned more about podcasting. I still have a lot to learn. Don't get me wrong. But the point that I'm trying to say is that I've built up my confidence in regards to public speaking, peer-review hearing my words, and it started from a place of ignorance. And you'll find that the more you do, the more podcasts you record, the more times you play the violin, the more times you write a software program, you'll build confidence. And that's where that action piece comes in by doing your karma, by following your inner eye, by moving on the path that your soul desires. You will start to build that inner confidence. Because say, you know what you can do, right? Let's say there's one thing you know you're the best at in the world. Maybe it's coding, right? And you just know, you just, you've coded so many programs. You've coded Facebook, you've coded Instagram, you coded this app that I'm speaking on right now. You coded Buzzsprout, you coded everything, right? And someone comes up to you and says, you're such a bad coder. You're going to sit there and laugh and say, okay, like I have this mountain of evidence that would prove you wrong, but it doesn't do anything to me. However, if you faked it, you didn't actually write the code and someone comes up to you and says, you're a terrible coder. You know, they're right. You know, there's a level of truth to it that will irritate you. Your heart will start to pump hard. You'll get tight in the chest. So you have to do confidence comes from the actions that you take in a specific area. So if you want to build confidence in anything, you have to just start doing it. You have to be okay being ignorant in order to build up that skill set. The next layer to this, and this is where it gets a little meta, a little spiritual, a little high vibe, whatever you want to call it. But what gears where this gets interesting is whenever it comes to proper education. Now, What I have noticed and so let's reframe this. Let's start off here. I've always been on a path of finding the highest truth for myself. I don't know what that means for you. I don't know what it means for anybody else, but I know for myself. I need to figure out what the highest truth is. What are things I know or don't know? What do I need to abandon? What are thoughts that are no longer serving me all of this? And my guiding light has always been unknowingly or knowingly that if new information comes to me and it makes me more calm. If it makes the world make more sense, then I've tried it on. I'll take that idea. I'll make it a part of me and I'll say, okay, let's try this out. And if I keep playing it out and my life keeps getting more calm, better things keep happening. Then that's a truth for me. Or maybe that changes over time. And I have had truths that have changed over time. Faking it to make it is a perfect example of a truth that I used to hold that I no longer hold. It worked for a certain time period where I was short-term goal-orientated. But now that I'm long-term goal-orientated, it no longer works. It's no longer the truth that I can rely on, if you will. And so this is where education comes in. And this is really why I'm putting out all of this content, all of this indigo knowledge, indigo education content for you guys. I mean, you go on my podcast and type in indigo education. You're going to have a plethora, a plethora of podcasts you can go and listen to. And the only thing I can tell you for sure is that that knowledge that Indigo education knowledge is knowledge that I have become more calm by understanding, by integrating, by using in my life. And so I offer it to people and I don't see them as being absolute truths. I see them as being the absolute truth for this moment in time to take me to the next moment to get more. enlightened to find a deeper truth within myself. And so I've seen knowledge, divine knowledge, if you will, as a path in finding calmness in finding that my soul, my inner eye that lives within me that has that guiding light, the spark of God, if you will. And so in order to do that, to bring this full circle, you have to be able to be ignorant about the things that you even think you know. You have to even assume the things you know to be wrong. You at least have to be open for them to be wrong. And and and don't take this the wrong way. But if they're right and they're working for you, keep using them. Keep going. 100 % keep going. Keep going. Keep going. New information comes in and it's completely different. And you just know because you're so in tuned with that inner eye and your soul. You just know it's wrong. You're like, okay, whatever you move on. You say, okay, or you can take an inquisitive route and ask questions, questions, questions, and you get down to a deeper. deeper understanding of what is being portrayed to you, is being the information that is being granted to you. And so this knowledge, the more that you can be okay. with not knowing, with asking questions, and then taking action. It will create this compounding effect of evidence that you have for yourself, that it won't matter what I say to you. It won't matter what a random person on Instagram says to you. You'll naturally create the internal confidence here. You'll cultivate the authentic confidence that you're looking for. So to do a quick little recap and I'll be happy to answer questions if anyone has them. Mr. 509 I saw you chatting a couple things. I'll see if I can go up and read them. But. Fake it until you make it is good for short term success. Definitely. Take the route of ignorance though. Ask questions. Assume maybe you don't know something. And then take action. You have to take action on things. Otherwise you will know you won't create the confidence within yourself that you can do things. Whatever it is, whatever skill you want to achieve or improve, you have to take action on it. And if you're sitting here saying, well, I do this thing like once a day for 30 minutes, maybe you got to do more of it. It becomes a question of volume. How much volume, how much are you giving to that skill? And the last one is education and alignment within yourself within the world so that you can have that unwavering confidence within yourself. And for all my podcast listeners, I love you guys. You guys are the best. I hope that this brings at least a little bit of clarity to confidence. I know that this is a topic that I think is a lot more. It's one of those things you just have to go and do. I don't think you can study your way to becoming confident. I think you have to actually go out and do things. You have to go start a podcast. You can't just study how to become a podcast host and then you gain confidence in being a podcast host. You can't play the guitar and just like you have to do the thing. That's the most important thing that I can possibly stress in this entire thing is that action is how you will gain confidence and it is directly relational. to how much action you take. And I guess I kind of missed this here. You guys get a little extra because you're sticking around till the end. You're going to get a little extra bonus here is I think that something I didn't touch on is that not only do you have to be confident or sorry, not only do you have to take action, but you have to do what you're going to say. And I'm not talking about like what you tell your parents, what you tell your friends, what you tell your girlfriend, what you tell your boyfriend. You have to take action on the things that you tell yourself. You tell yourself you're going to wake up at this time. You tell yourself that you're going to release a podcast on this day. You tell people that you're going to do X or Y. You have to do those things because it is the only way for you to build the confidence in yourself that you're going to do what you say. Because if you're not even doing what you're saying, you're not going to believe yourself. Forget other people. Like you have to be able to convince yourself before you can convince other people. And so the root, one of the roots, right? You have to do, but you also have to, if you've decided that you're going to do, you got to do, otherwise you're going to start the momentum, which is another Indigo education that we did. Otherwise you're going to create the momentum in the opposite direction where you're just not going to do what you say you do. And so if that's been you for a while, I know that it'll be difficult, but start small. Tell yourself you're going to eat a meal today. It's probably something you already do, but but commit to that. And you're like, wow, I told myself I was going to eat one nutritious meal today and then go eat a nutritious meal. And you'll start to build that confidence because you'll be doing what you say you're doing. And I know that sounds silly, but if you're at nothing, it's an improvement. So I hope that all of this was helpful for you guys. I got another Indigo education podcast out now. and, and honestly, yeah, go check out all the past Indigo education podcasts. You're going to get a lot of knowledge from those. And like I even said in this podcast, if it doesn't help you, if it doesn't feel right, don't take it on as your truth. Don't, you don't have to agree with it. You don't have to do it, but if it makes you more calm, if it makes you more, see the world better in more enlightened way, try it on. then go do with that in mind and see what happens. And that experience is where the power lies. So with all that being said, I love you guys. I appreciate you guys. And I will see all of you guys in the sixth dimension. you